Taking Your Seat

When you’re shown to your table, stand at the left side of your chair. Entering from the left is a common Western convention and keeps you from bumping into your neighbor. If the staff pulls out your chair, step in between the chair and the table and sit as the chair is eased forward.

Sit upright, about one or two fists’ width from the table. Tuck a small bag between your back and the chair back, or set it at your feet. Check large bags and coats at the cloakroom, and keep bags and phones off the table.

Where the guest of honor sits depends on the country and the occasion. At many Western dinners, it’s the seat to the host’s right; in Japan, it’s the seat farthest from the door. Either way, as a guest, don’t choose a seat yourself — wait for the host to guide you.