Using Your Napkin

Once seated, unfold your napkin when the host picks up theirs; at a casual meal, as soon as you’ve settled in is fine. Fold it in half and lay it on your lap with the crease toward you. Don’t tuck it into your collar or belt.

When you need to wipe your mouth, gently dab with the inner side of the fold. Any marks stay hidden inside, so nothing shows when the napkin goes back on your lap. Dabbing before you sip wine also keeps the rim of your glass clean.

Where you leave your napkin also sends a signal. If you step away mid-meal, leave it loosely folded on your chair seat; when you’ve finished, place it loosely folded to the left of your plate. There’s no need to fold it neatly — a loose fold is just right.